Just Follow The Instructions

People are often surprised that I can cook. I never understood why. Can’t everyone? You just get a cookbook, get the ingredients and do what the recipe says. Except it doesn’t always work that way. Ten people following the same recipe will produce a dish that slightly varies in ten different ways. I don’t know…


Best Reason Ever to Walk Off the Job

Many people come to work for us after we have helped them with their own personal tragedy. We become a part of their family in a way, so they might take a job helping out on removals, doing hair, or working in the office. One hairdresser who came to work for us this way said…


Remembering Harley

The one who was there through The Bad Years. I think I’ll eat one of his favorite grilled cheese sandwiches tonight. (Slideshow below) This was our favorite band. There’s things inside that scream and shout.


He Didn’t Want The Job

The funeral service profession needs people. We especially need young people. We are a profession made up largely of overweight alcoholics aged 60+, many of whom are bored and jaded with the job after getting pushed into the family business. They are often unable to lift and just plain don’t feel like working on Christmas…


Worse Than The Screams

The silence.


Never Say No?

I recently read an article called “Five Things a Funeral Director Should Never Say” which seemed to center on not saying no to various things a family might request. http://connectingdirectors.com/articles/45870-5-things-a-funeral-director-should-never-say The author, Ryan Thomgartin, has many people commenting that he must not be a funeral director himself if this is truly how he expects us…


You’re Normal

I woke up crying three times in a row this morning. For someone who hasn’t cried in several years, this is unusual. I’m still not sure if I was crying only in the dream. It was the same dream, the recurring one where he’s not dead and no one understands how he miraculously survived the…


But can she LIFT?

The biggest reservation/complaint people have about women working in the funeral industry is that they can’t lift. For those who don’t know me, I am a competitive bodybuilder and despite being a 5-foot-tall female, I have no problem with the heavy lifting requirements of this job. I consider it a part of my job to…


Everything’s Included

I remember one staff meeting a few years ago where we were discussing a funeral home on the other side of the country which was being investigated for improper treatment of human remains. Bodies were stacked in the garage, without refrigeration, and burials which were supposed to be conducted within 24 hours were actually put…


God: Not Welcome at My Arrangements

My mother used to tell me that I would know I had reached professional success when I no longer had to look for work; I’d sit back and wait while other people called me. I reached that point years ago. Today I know I’m successful because my services are so in demand that I can…