Category: Grief

It’s His Birthday

I don’t even have the case for sure and already I’m wondering about using that auditorium I used for my car wreck family that had 500 guests, because this one will have far, far more. Should I put all the kids in one casket or one of the babies with Mom? How many hearses? Last…


Correct Holiday Grieving

I don’t do resolutions, except when I make them deliberately stupid, like when I resolved to pay more attention to the Kardashians and ended up binge-watching twelve seasons and buying their cookbook and developing opinions about their lives. Personally, I think the whole show went to hell when Khloe and Lamar split. Why not give…


Affording a Funeral for an Infant

For the purposes of this post, “baby” or “infant” shall refer to a child aged one year or under, and a fetus at any stage of development. I am seeing a lot of GoFundMe pages set up for families seeking financial help after they lose a baby. Nothing is wrong with this, as there may…


In An Instant

While you were complaining about bills; yelling at your kids; wondering where the good tablecloth was; playing video games; cleaning the fish tank; calling your mother or learning a second language, I was picking up the pieces of a multiple-family car wreck. One man’s life is forever ruined; his wife and daughter are dead and,…


It’s the “Live Without The One You Loved The Most” challenge!

I don’t know what the first “challenge” was, but I imagine it had something to do with conquering a physical feat. Weight loss, or a strength goal; perhaps finding the courage to enter a race or other athletic event. Then they started getting dumb. I remember a “challenge” involving swallowing a large spoonful of cinnamon;…


The Body We Didn’t Want Them To Find

I’ve been reading many news stories lately about funeral homes in trouble with the law for mishandling human remains – hiding them on the property rather than keeping them in refrigeration, usually because the families cannot afford to pay for the cremation or other arrangements. In my opinion, disrespect of a human body and refusal…


I’ll Pray For You

Here’s a better idea: DO SOMETHING! Here are suggestions of things that will help a dying person or the recently bereaved. 40 Things More Useful Than Prayer 1. Give a cancer patient a ride to chemo 2. Clean the house of someone who is hospitalized, or buy them a month of maid service 3. Cook…


Remembering Harley

The one who was there through The Bad Years. I think I’ll eat one of his favorite grilled cheese sandwiches tonight. (Slideshow below) This was our favorite band. There’s things inside that scream and shout.


Worse Than The Screams

The silence.


You’re Normal

I woke up crying three times in a row this morning. For someone who hasn’t cried in several years, this is unusual. I’m still not sure if I was crying only in the dream. It was the same dream, the recurring one where he’s not dead and no one understands how he miraculously survived the…